tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-14912662.post7424976390294211886..comments2023-06-21T03:48:20.693-05:00Comments on LandLife: People WatchingJEffhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/08524578778401192931noreply@blogger.comBlogger4125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-14912662.post-25631682202467585822010-10-14T16:58:28.655-05:002010-10-14T16:58:28.655-05:00I think my answer to the cost question from now on...I think my answer to the cost question from now on will be a lot, but God provided every single penny because we were obedient! (thanks Michelle - good answer!)<br /><br />And, I know I'm commenting twice today, but had to speak up on this one - we TOTALLY get LOTS of looks and we have three biological children. I think a lot of it is the lots of kids and those times when your kids are acting like, well kids..., we get lots of stares too. Our three were a little too full of energy last week in the grocery store and we got LOTS of stares. I told Jason while our kids were literally running screaming to the car (screaming in their joy and fun) while a group of people looked on, "Dude, what kind of looks are we going to get when we have these three plus our two Ethiopian kids? We're going to be a walking freak show!" We laughed. I haven't experienced a lot of weird questions yet - although we've already gotten our share. I know when our kids are home and with us we will get a lot more. My prayer is I can be open about it in a way that is encouraging. I'm excited about getting to be a constant walking advertisement promoting adoption! Of course we don't have them home yet either so my thoughts may change...Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-14912662.post-63056525526889456292010-10-10T15:31:17.220-05:002010-10-10T15:31:17.220-05:00Thanks for this post. I loved your answers. It&#...Thanks for this post. I loved your answers. It's a little easier for my husband and me since we're Asian, we don't get as much staring from strangers. For us, we have to deal with personal questions from people that we know. I don't mind providing answers, but some people don't know when to stop asking. It even shocked me when my neighbor came up to us and asked "How much did it cost?" I thought that was kind of rude, so I just said, it was a lot, but totally worth it.michellehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10608192714089939668noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-14912662.post-32767734512139364202010-10-10T07:32:27.432-05:002010-10-10T07:32:27.432-05:00Hmmm... I never thought about people looking MORE ...Hmmm... I never thought about people looking MORE at a family with more than one child. Gotta chew on that one a bit.<br /><br />My answer in storage to questions that shouldn't be answered for strangers, "I'm surprised that you would ask such a private question."<br /><br />My answer in storage to questions where I want to know the intent of the question before answering, "Why do you ask?"<br /><br />My answer in storage for when people ask if my children are siblings, "We're a family."<br /><br />As long as we're talking about answering questions, I've heard rave reviews of this book. http://adoption.about.com/od/guidereviews/fr/wiseuprev.htmSarahhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11282047182701941030noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-14912662.post-57026465150992154552010-10-09T21:02:38.389-05:002010-10-09T21:02:38.389-05:00That is a great attitude. Our daughter is adopted,...That is a great attitude. Our daughter is adopted, but she looks a lot like us (domestic adoption and she is white like we are) so we don't really get comments. But when people find out she's adopted, especially that we adopted her when she was 15, almost 16 months old, then they have a lot of questions. SOmehow I never get offended when they ask about her "real" mom. I tell them I am her "real" mom and that her birth mom loved her very much, etc... etc...<br /><br />As far as the cost thing goes, it is true. Domestic OR international, adoption is VERY expensive. And our daughter "cost" us about $23,000. It is a fact. I am not equating her "cost" with a material thing as a child can never be measured monetarily, but the fact remains that adoption is way expensive. ANd I bet you know firsthand, that adoption is NOT cheaper by the dozen!!<br /><br />We'd LOVE to have more children, but the bottom line is we can't afford the adoption expenses. So we will continue to pray for more, but we will also continue to thnk God every day for the honor of being parents to the 2 children we do have.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.com